Proudly Single!!!

So here I am...coffee by my side..my favorite music playing behind me..and m all ready  to vomit out all my frustration on people commenting for me being still single....duh uh I mean PROUDLY SINGLE!!!

OK so I have been on the next marriage to do list by most of my married and precisely even single friends...be it suggestions..horror stories (will let u know ahead that why do i call it horror)..or be it them playing a cupid for me...I have got it all...OK OK I agree and have not a single doubt on,that their comments are fully well-intentional..and is for my better..those are just a way to encourage me...but trust me people we single people feel the exact opposite..opposite of encouraged..!!

So here i am listing down on the list of things which shouldn't be said to single people on this earth!!!


1) THEY: So why are u still single??_ _ _ _ .
     ME (in my mind):Well let me thing..uhh mmm mmm well maybe people have found out that
       I  am from  Jupiter :p :p

First of all how am I suppose to answer that..I mean how on this holy earth will I answer that... do I ever ask how come are you still married???

 ..OK I know its kind a compliment but I am tired of answering this(valid answer still not found)...but the problem is that this question refers to me as  that I shouldn't be single because I have already  crossed the so called society declared marriage age..it also makes me feel that I owe some kind of justification to them for me being single..
Trust me guys single-hood has its ups and downs and so does the married life..but isn't it better to live a happy single life then being in a wrong relationship?? (NOTE: this sentence in no way means that I don't want to get married)...



2)THEY:Tum bahut choosy ho.. u know you should learn to adjust.
    ME (in my mind):OK I promise I will marry the next guy I meet..pakka promise!!!

                                       

So is being choosy that bad?? (to all my single friend u should ignore such thing and say yes to being choosy!!)..The person whom I will spend my entire life..don't I have the right to choose him wisely..don't I have a personal choice..."this question refers to me as you are getting old please get married"..or lets simply say it refers to me as "the top u have been looking for is out of stock..please buy these loose pajamas they were not even sold  in stock clearance sale!!! kindly adjust ma'am"...OK,I know I know I am over exaggerating it...but this is what it feels..so before you blame someone for being choosy please note it,its their life and  its their right!!!



3)THEY:Have you tried shaadi.com or any other matrimonial site??
    ME (in my mind):No but I have tried scuba diving even that was quite adventurous!!

To be very clear..these marriage beuros are nothing but a money making business..and uploading a profile not only makes me feel useless but it also makes me feel unwanted..unwanted by family.and by people whom I  love..its feels like m shouting out "please take me m getting old..please please!!no one wants me here" huh!! I dont beleive in the funda where I pay a certain..wait..i mean a big amount to buy a soul-mate..so next time if u r suggesting me or any other single person to open an account on such marriage websites think before doing  it.



4)THEY:Staying alone is not easy..u need someone..especially in your older age!!
    ME (in my mind):Ok so marriage is investment plan..u get retirement benefits..

This is no less then a horror story..I mean scaring someone that they might end up dying alone is a very negative way to convince someone to get married...this one is a total thumbs down from me..!!

5)THEY:You should be positive..things happen when u least expect it!!
    ME(in my mind):Alright but I am  never on expectation mode..or should I put myself on                   expectation mode     what are expectations??..what kind of expectations??..well wait u have             confused me a little...

So this comment is partly true..I  know many people who have met unexpectedly with each other..but this comment makes me believe that I shouldn't expect anything or maybe I am doing something wrong by expecting!!

6)THEY (especially the oldie):Read this prayer and see how it helps in searching for your right          partner
   ME(in my mind):What??????...please please also give me a prayer  which will help me to get          unlimited supply of money!!!

First of all I am not an atheist..I totally believe in god and I have full faith in my religion.But please for god sake lets not mix our stupidity into it.God always has his own plans which is for our betterment,I will never ever pray only for the sake of my selfishness..i would rather focus on being a good human being and I am  sure this will be more rewarding.


7)THEY:I wish even i was single like you...you are so lucky!!
   ME(in my mind):Hey wait weren't you happily married and weren't you convincing me to tie the       knot as soon as possible...you cheat..were you trying to make my life miserable..I hate you             huh!!!

I agree that whoever says this lines does not literally mean it..these lines come up by married people when it comes to freedom!!...yes I am free free to do whatever I want..I pay my own bills..eat whatever I want to ..go out whenever I want to...and even can sleep and wake up whenever I want..my schedule is in my own hand...yes I love my life..but being single has its own challenges  too..Being married also has it positive points you can distribute your bills..there is always someone who can help you with your decisions..and it gives you  freedom to start your own family.So like its said every coin has its two side both married and single life has its own ups and downs.So please married ones stop appreciating single-hood...and single people stop appreciating married life..be real face the truth!!

So all I want to say is why do we always end up in talking about marriage..is marriage everything..?? Does no one really appreciate happiness..??

I would rather focus on my happiness and focus on the beauty of life...things which are meant to happen will happen no matter what...!!

Cheers to single hood!!!